I don’t often read non fiction or scientific related material. But I love Aziz and I love Parks and Rec with a passion and I believe in #treatyoself so here we are.
First, the book itself. I wonder, how many other people only pick up books by famous entertainers because of the author? And how much of the limited shelf space and consumer money is used on uber famous entertainers instead of up and coming authors? Is it fair? (Sorry Tom Hanks.)
But I borrowed this from a friend so it’s totally fine.
Now, the contents of the book. Modern Romance, coauthored with Eric Klinenberg, is a very scientific look at the current dating scene. Not a ton on marriage or sex, except how they pertain to dating and the way that has evolved over the past 60ish years. They do factor in larger sociological shifts; technology, the economy, the evolving gender roles.
They looked at America primarily, but also spent some time in Japan, France, and Argentina. I actually love that they looked at different countries, there were some similarities but also some crazy differences. Japan is wild. But no matter where they were, they did lots of research. They talked to tons of real life people, scientists, experts, and the internet. There were charts, and studies, and testimonials. All in all it was a very comprehensive description of the current landscape. Sprinkled with Aziz’s humor, it was a good read.
I will say, most of the time when I was reading the testimonials or looking at the charts my first reaction was ‘duh.’ Not because I’m a genius but because I’m a single mid twenties girl who doesn’t really like dating apps but is still trying to date.
Which according to Aziz means I need to join some group actives, hang out with friends of friends or have an arranged marriage. Shout out to J Biebs where ever you are!
Even though it wasn’t earth changing info I will say, I appreciated the perspective Aziz included. Technology always changes, dating is tricky for everyone everywhere (shout out to small towns). And most importantly, don’t forget that when you’re dating you’re dealing with real people. It seems silly, but after some of the stories Aziz shared it’s a good reminder.
So incase it wasn’t clear, I recommend the book.
Orrrrrr if you want to the very abbreviated version here’s a link to the Time piece.